Raison d’etre in French,  your calling according to Oprah, flow according to Mihaly Csihszentmihalyi, your purpose – the Japanese have a word for this and it is Ikigai.  The translation being – your reason for being.

Often talking to clients I get the question “Why am I here?” ‘How do I find out my purpose?”. Pick up countless ‘self help’ books and read online articles and they (whoever they are) talk about purpose.

Oprahs last show was dedicated to your calling. Her view is that “ your job is to find out why you are here and get about the business of doing that”. Whether that be shown to you in your work or in your role in community or the family, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the thing to make you famous – if indeed you are meant to be famous. 

How do you work it out?

Paying attention helps.

Pay attention to the signs. We filter out so much, often we fail to see the big massive obvious tell tale sign that is doing the running man right in front of us.

Stay still and pay attention. Listen to the conversations you are having, the advice you are giving and the journeys you are called to do.

I like this visual from (see on right hand side) – I think Mark Winn, which seems to sum it up – feels like a beautiful place to be right?

 Journaling the answers to the questions


-               what do I love?

-               What am I good at?

-               What does the world need?


May get you some way to finding your calling.  Keep writing; add to it, ask others who know you their opinion. What can people count on you for?

Mark Nepos quotes Mechthild of Magdeburg, a medieval mystic:

"A fish cannot drown in water. A bird does not fall in air. Each creature God made must live in its own true nature."

Whatever you believe in, it’s a beautiful thought and speaks to the nature of Ikigai.

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