Have you ever stood in a lift and been unsure whether or not you should make conversation? Is it considered more rude to talk or to not talk to that complete stranger?
As Billy Connolly says ‘I felt as welcome as a fart in a space suit.’
When you smile at a fellow colleague in the corridor and receive NOTHING in return. Nada, niente, nicht.
I am a smiler. Therefore I am offended when the smile is not returned. I ask the question, why?
People are different. That’s a fact. Therefore, even though we would be the one handing out all the cheesy grins, we have to accept that they will not always be returned.
"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy." - Thich Nhat Hanh
The simplicity of being a nice human to others will mean that good things come back to you.
You are the one in control of your emotions and feelings and the sense of being unable to receive a pleasant greeting from another does not lie well with you.
Funnily enough, smiling happens without much thought which brings me to question: “Are these people purposefully thinking about NOT smiling back at me?”
Basically it comes down to - ‘It’s not me, it’s you!’ That ill-fated phrase that nobody likes to hear.
It is a constant discussion in the LS office whether we have done something to encourage this or if it is genuinely just how people are!?
Confusing does not even cover it.
My theory is that as long as you are the one that keeps smiling then at least you can be happy. “It’s better to be the one who smiled rather than the one who did not smile back.”
Three things smiling is good for and :
1) Smiling can help you destress.
2) Smiling makes you and others happy.
3) Smiling may even land you a job.
As Hugh Downs says, “A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.”
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